i have always been anti-princess. even though that was the name my dad used to call me and it was filled with such good memories. i just never favoured the word when referring to my girls. when they were born people would ask, “awwww, how’s your little princess?” and i would cringe inside. i know, i’m so mean right?
but daani just loves to be called princess. she believes in her heart of hearts that she is. and that niyya is as well. and that her papa is king and i’m the queen. queen mummy to be exact. lol.
and at first it didn’t sit right with me. mainly because i know what i know and those titles get thrown around so loosely and get used and abused. and that kings can be monsters and princesses can be spoiled. and that the pre-fab fairytales that i grew up on, that are everywhere you turn these days are not ideals and dreams i want my daughters to buy into. at all.
and so, i’m just not about that. princess this and princess that.
but i’m starting to realize her view of it is true. and pure and special. so i’m starting to think it’s sweet. since this started way back when she was two, we’ve talked about what kind of princess she is. and adjectives i want her to hold close and adopt as characteristics are always on heavy rotation.
she is a strong, caring, gentle, creative, courageous, thoughtful, helpful and kind princess. she prays for people, and shares with people and loves people. and she loves herself. not in the selfish, vain way. in the wholesome, ever-important, oft-overlooked, self-love kind of way. she is that kind of princess. and that’s something i will forever be cool with.
x
tahs
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Tahsin, this was so beautiful. It touched my heart.
It shows that you and your partner raise your daughters with so much love. That love and security is the foundation that will support them in growing into strong women, regardless of whether they’re called “princess” or not.
Hope your girls are always stay smiling and spreading positivity and love just as they do now :)